For me, the following Chuck Palahniuk quote is VERY MUCH a part of that journey.
Just know this...it ALL starts here:
NOBODY writes MY STORY. I WRITE MY OWN FUCKING STORY. I lived it, I survived it, I have faced it, and I have owned it. It is MINE TO TELL. It's simple.
You don’t like that? FUCK OFF.
“Your past is just a story and once you realize this…it has no power over you.” – Chuck Palahniuk
Neo via Muffy